Muslim rules on dating
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To get this out of the way: Karim is not a “Muslim name.” It is an Arabic name that Muslims name their children, since Karim is one of the 99 names of Allah, but the word and name predate Islam.
In short, mid-life crises come early and hit harder for non-practicing Muslim men.
I have seen this play out so many times in my own family and community that it no longer surprises me.
You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.
However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.
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As for her reason to not date this Karim, obviously, since most Muslims don’t behead people or beat their wives, not wanting to associate with people like that is a bad reason to not want to date a Muslim.
There are some good reasons why this woman might want to walk away, though, that aren’t based on less-warranted stereotypes, reasons that have to do with the realities of the ways in which sexism, misogyny, sex-negativity, patriarchy, and purity culture manifest themselves Muslim-dominated cultures.
What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).
Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.
Dating is only considered as acceptable is when a person is ready to look for a spouse.